Friday, July 09, 2010

Nursing in Public...

So, I am not sure if you are in some of the same blogging circles I am, but there has been an informative "carnival" happening over the mom blogosphere . I think it is great to spread the word that nursing is a fantastic start to your babies life and that it really isn't that big of a deal (plus, it is a mothers legal right) to nurse when out and about. I however, have not joined because ... get ready for this... I do NOT think it is too much to ask for a woman to do it discreetly.

I nursed my first until he weaned himself around 14 months. In the comfort of our own home we nursed without a cover, but in public I either nursed in the car or with a cover (these worked great for me).  It honestly makes me uncomfortable to see another woman whip it out and let her little one go to town while I am out with my husband eating dinner. What you do in the comfort of your own home - who cares? And if I am in your house, you do it your way.

But, really, how many of you don't feel like you need to look in the opposite direction when someone is nursing without a cover? We can bemoan the fact that breasts have been overly sexualized in our culture until we are blue in the face, but it doesn't change anything. I still prefer my husband to only see my own - even if yours has a baby stuck to it. I can't imagine the trauma a brother must go through when his sister loses her inhibitions because she is breastfeeding.

I am probably behind the times, a prude, living in the dark ages, but I don't think I am the only breastfeeding mom out there who thinks this way. So for those of us that embrace the hooter hiders - keep covering - you don't have to be ashamed. Your child isn't suffering because she nurses in the shade and frankly, I thank you!

3 comments:

  1. Thanks so much for sharing your perspective, Jesica! I definitely support a mom's right to nurse her baby anytime and anywhere. AND I would like to see more moms nurse w/ confidence in public.

    That being said, I do agree with many of the sentiments that you expressed. I choose to use a nursing cover in public and when we have guests in our home because I value modesty - breastfeeding or not. Some people manage to nurse cover-less without exposing much skin at all, but I could never quite figure out how to make that work.

    In a nutshell, my philosophy is: I nurse in public proudly (w/ a cover). :)

    stephanie@metropolitanmama.net

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  2. Agreed. However... we got to a point where nursing without a cover was FAR more discreet than with one because Sam would freak out and flail like crazy, drawing much attention to us.
    I have to laugh, tho, because I am part of a mom's group here and I have yet to see a mom nursing without a cover in the group. I might be a little more uninhibited than most... but nursing without a cover amongst other women is not an issue at all (for me). Around men? Different story.

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  3. Not having kids, I haven't actually nursed anywhere yet, but I don't have a problem with people nursing uncovered in public, AS LONG as they are being discreet about it. For example, a friend of mine did it the other day, and except for the brief flash of nipple (which I only saw because she turned towards me to avoid flashing the desk girls at the doctor's office), you really couldn't see anything at all when the baby was latched on; just a very thin sliver of skin between her shirt and the undershirt she was wearing. However, I remember distinctly seeing a woman unbutton her shirt to the waist and let both breasts hang out to nurse when I was a kid, and that, well...not so much ;) Personally, I plan to cover up in public, and with guests in my home, unless I simply cannot find a single thing to cover with. I completely agree that this is a modesty issue.

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