Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Just Finished: Cupidity

Around Valentines Day my sweet husband heard a FamilyLife broadcast with the DeMarco's, feeling convicted he ordered their recent book, "Cupidity"
Cupidity: 50 Stupid Things People Do for Love (Paperback)

I also heard the broadcast and felt that twinge of guilt over some of the stupid things I have done in our relationship. I promptly stole the book when it arrived at our house and just, recently, finished.

This book would be well suited for the conservative single or the "nuclear" family of stay at home wife and bread winning husband. I, fortunately, fall in to the latter. The book is a very easy read. Each chapter deals with an act of "cupidity". While I feel like I did glean some good things from this book, it isn't amazing, but just another Christian relationship book. I always hate being negative about things, but  I thought it was a little lacking.

Don't get me wrong- I need to be reminded, over and over again, about the basics of married life. I screw up often; however,  I feel like I gained more from the radio broadcast than from reading the entire book. The writing is sometimes cheesy, but maybe it is geared more for singles. And, maybe after hearing the broadcast my expectations were a little too high.

My biggest complaint, (and perhaps the most telling of my spiritual state, depending on your beliefs) was the idea that men may have to, and in fact should, be willing to confront their spouse when there are issues; but women should merely pray for the men in there lives to be convicted and thus letting God change them. Now, I agree that men should address issues within marriage with tenderness and truth. I also believe that women should pray for their spouse to be convicted by the Holy Spirit when there are problems. I do NOT think that women should avoid confronting their husbands. Granted, we suck at it. Instead of respect and gentleness we serve our men a plate full of anger, nagging, and disrespect. So, I think a chapter on the cupidity of how we confront the men in our lives and how to confront in love would have been MUCH more helpful than skirting the issue and basically telling women to suffer through in silence. I will tell you right now, there are times when I have had to confront my husband. There have been times when he has confronted me. If I would have let those things fester on and on, I would have become resentful and bitter. Even if he didn't change over night, knowing he knew my heart, my concerns, and that I expected him to start working for something better, made things a bazillion times better. A little conflict is better than months and years of swallowing the bitter pill. But, maybe that is just me.

Overall - it was cute. Not earth shattering, not totally lame. It had a lot of good stuff and just a few little things that I think should have been edited out.  Sometimes honesty is brutal, but it is better than the alternative. Plus, I paid good money for this book. :)

Friday, March 19, 2010

I'm never gonna be cool...

The other night while loading the dishwasher I had an epiphany. I am NOT cool and probably never will be. Here is why:

1. I had headgear.

2. I have no chin - well I have one, but if you look at my profile, it is pretty much the worlds smallest chin. I blame the headgear.

3. I like to listen to old school Mariah while doing housework late at night.
 I have even been known to dance - a little bit like Elaine Benes

4. I still make references to old Seinfeld episodes.

5. In Jr. High I had the unfortunate nickname "The Joker" because of my abnormally large smile. I thought I would grow into it; I didn't.

6. My hair is naturally curly. This means that I never wake up with hair that can just be brushed and left to its own devices. 
(Photo found here and it is NOT me, but my hair has done this after a fight with the blow-dryer)
If we go camping, you will never be able to take me seriously again, once you have seen my hair in the morning.

7. I am horrible at sports.

8. I don't get jokes about current pop culture.

9. I am don't fit nicely into any people group (i.e. Outdoorsy, Hippy, Yuppy, Academic, Redneck...) I am just strange.

10. I married a left handed, red-head. Try that for a discriminated people group. :)
 Good thing he is so smokin' hot!

11. I am not easy to get to know. Translated: I don't have a plethora of friends. (But I LOVE the ones I have:)

12. I can't end lists in a multiple of 5.

13. I talk in math terms, occasionally.
Image found here

14. I like sappy country love songs 

80's bands like Bob Segar, Foreigner, Journey, Pat Benetar and old school John Mellencamp (thanks mom)

 I prefer the early Beatles to the latter;

 and I am not afraid to sing them loudly in the car.

That is just a start. I am pretty sure that I am content to be an adult and not worry much about my social status and I am thankful for my sweet friend, Rachel, who thinks I am cool. Hopefully this doesn't totally change her mind.

Have you ever had a moment when you realized how un-cool you are? The best part is knowing that it really doesn't matter.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Beautiful Hero

I may be one of the only people who haven't seen this performed, but I thought it was beautiful. It reminded me of my beautiful Hero and all that He rescued me from. Be sure to stick it out until the end of the video. It is worth it.

Monday, March 15, 2010

Sickness, Sleep and Sanity....

I am weary.
Sleep Wellness - Tips for a Good Night's Sleep as represented by a tired young woman sitting on the edge of a bed rubbing her eyes.
So many things are good in my life, but right now I feel overwhelmed with the things that are trying.

It could be that I haven't had a full night of uninterrupted sleep in over a week. I am tired. I keep thinking that soon my body will just start functioning normally on little sleep, just as it did when Boden was a little guy. Not so secretly, I am hoping and praying that my sweet little man gets well.

Back to back illness' have taken their toll and while I am weary, I know that sleepless nights are a small price to pay for the a precious son who wants to be near his mama. I just don't know if my heart can take hearing
the cries for one more night. I forget how much it hurts to not be able to "fix it". I forget how much I am NOT in control. I forget how ticked I am that they don't make an over the counter cough syrup for kids under 5.  I forget how inept I am, until simple things like stomach flu and dry coughs remind me of that fact.

For now, I am leaning on the strong arms of my Heavenly Father, to get me through one more night of tears. I pray that He will bring calm hearts and a restful night to our home. Sometimes I am painfully aware that my "problems" are so miniscule compared to those who suffer so much more. So, tonight I also pray that needs I will probably never know, will be met, along with the quick healing of an almost two year old.

Picture found here

Friday, March 12, 2010

I laughed... I hope you won't be offended

If you have ever owned a bad dog you will laugh at this. If you haven't, I apologize in advance...