Wednesday, January 06, 2010

Who is the good guy?

As we enter into a new phase of toddler-hood, the phase where B is asserting his independence, I don't mind being the "bad guy" if necessary.

What I don't enjoy is wondering if being the bad guy is the right thing to do. Is something else wrong or is he just being naughty? Does he really need more sleep or am I just short on patience? Am I a failure or a success as a parent? Am I scarring him for life, creating an attachment disorder, or just plain being mean?

Am I alone in feeling this way?

What advice do you have?

(PS. I am not a psychotic "bad guy" like the dude pictured! He was just the baddest guy I could think of at the moment! )


  1. you're not alone. i'm "newer" at this than you are. so i'm not going to be much for advice. just today before M's nap i was thinking about this. hard stuff! i've read/heard so many mixed things on this. including bits of dobsons "bringing up boys" book - but that's not much help for baby/toddlerhood. basically, just here to say - you're not alone : )

  2. All parents must go through this - I'm sure of it!! I think we erred on the side of being too hard on the oldest one (she's 8 now), but it's only natural when you don't have a reference point. You can only do the best you can do. Each child has a different personality and has to be treated differently. At the end of the day, if your child still knows you love them, you've done your job.


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