Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Family Dynamics

Let me tell you a story -

There were three families: Family A, Family B, and Family C. For the past two years Family A and Family B have taken a long weekend together for fun. (Note: we are family A) It has been king of "our thing" - at least in my mind. Enter Family C. Family C is a nice family. Family C recently spent over a week with Family B. Family B invited Family C to come on our long weekend. (I thought family C would decline) Family C is coming with us on the long weekend. Family C's family, because they are more high maintenance will require most of the attention from Family B. This means Family A's, awesome kid will not get much (if any) quality time with Family B. Family A really wants Family B to be a huge part of Family A's childs life, but unless we are without Family C this is highly unlikely.

I know it would have been extremely RUDE to not invite Family C. I hate that I am totally selfish and jealous. I hate that I secretly hope that Family C has something that comes up and they are unable to attend the long weekend. I hate that I secretly resent Family C for hogging Family B. I am a bad person. I am a selfish person. I wish I were not like this. The worst part... I am horrible at not letting my emotions show. I will probably look pissed off the entire time. Heaven help me.

Any advice? Or anyone willing to sabotage Family C's plans to tag along?

1 comment:

  1. Wow, I totally understand everything you are feeling right now. This is the kind of thing that would make me want to back out of the long weekend altogether! But my "mature advice" to you is: Could you possibly talk to the Family B people, just explain to them how you are feeling, that you love Family C and all, but you wanted some quality time with Fam B. I don't know what this would accomplish exactly, but said in a polite/loving way, it would at least let your feelings be known to Fam B.

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